A Message for Newlyweds
I challenge you two
the powerful opportunity
that your intimate relationship can provide:
to awaken you to your deeper nature.
It is a tremendous challenge
for it means undertaking a journey
in search of your
Your intimate connection with each other
is one of the very best vehicles on this journey.
Your intimacy with each other
can be a path,
an unfolding process
of discovery and revelation,
making your relationship
Despite what others might tell you,
most of the old rules for true loving relationship
do not apply,
for an essential first step on your journey together is
I don’t know,
opinions, beliefs, and preconceptions.
You need beginner’s minds
for if you try to be experts,
wanting to be in control
or have it all together,
you will end up narrowing your range of possibilities,
A beginner’ mind
will enable you to ask essential questions
sparking new discoveries,
drawing on your power
of creative intelligence.
The many questions you will face
along life’s journey
will only feel painful and irritating
if you assume you should already have the answers.
Human relationships are difficult
being human is difficult.
You will discover that
the most powerful agent for your growth and transformation
are not easy answers
or expert techniques
but simply a willingness to approach difficulties
in a new way
and to grow in new directions.
Instead of trying to avoid challenges in life,
let them work on you,
stimulating your creativity,
This will provide you
the strength and courage
to keep growing in love,
no matter what.
I don’t know
will help you
discover new possibilities
in the midst of whatever problems you face.
Though you might feel safer
thinking you have all the answers along the way,
is not safe.
unmasks and exposes us,
bringing us face to face
with each other, with ourselves,
and with life
in all its power and mystery.
Unless you are willing
to explore the unknown
in yourself and each other,
you will never advance very far
on the path of Love.
It may seem unsettling
to discover that there are no easy solutions,
but when you can give up
seeking easy ways out,
Love’s rough edges
will become a powerful resource for you,
cultivating a sweetness all their own.